Where’s tomorrow?
There’s this question that almost everybody of us doesn’t know the "right" answer and rather just believe or NOT to believe on it. The question is…
Do you believe in Destiny?
Definitions:
Destiny or Fate concerns the fixed natural order of the
universe. It is the invincible necessity to which even the gods must
accede, as the Sibyl of Delphi confessed. Destiny is fate, personified
in Greek culture by the three Moirae (called the Parcae by the Romans),
with a Nordic counterpart in the three Norns. The "doom of the powers"
in Norse mythology is Ragnarok the battle which even Odin must
inevitably face, at the end of the world.
- an event (or a course of events) that will inevitably happen in the future
- the
ultimate agency that predetermines the course of events (often
personified as a woman); "we are helpless in the face of Destiny" - fortune:
your overall circumstances or condition in life (including everything
that happens to you); "whatever my fortune may be"; "deserved a better
fate"; "has a happy lot"; "the luck of the Irish"; "a victim of
circumstances"; "success that was her portion"
Anyway, we all know that destiny is something that will happen in the future in which we are not sure of, how it will go or what will be the outcome of something that will happen. Do you know the story of Oedipus the king? Oedipus’ destiny has been foretold his parents knew what will happen. As much as his parents wants to counter Oedipus’ destiny, it still did happen. (I’m sorry but I won’t tell the whole story of him here… just try to read the story here.)
However, I myself happened NOT to believe in destiny even I know that story and ever since. My counter-argument about it has been always "it is US who creates our own destiny." It is our own choices that will make our own future, our own fate or our own destiny. As Jean-Paul Sartre would say, "man is condemned to be free." Our life will not be dictated by someone, something or anything. It’s our choices that we encounter in life that will be the structure of something that will happen in the future in which we don’t have any idea.
BUT is it really like that? Are we sure that no one else (not even GOD) and only ourselves is directing our own lives?
I’ve been thinking about this for a long time now and some things do make sense and some things don’t. Events that happened in my life was truly unexpected. But when I think of it and reminisce in the past, EVERYTHING has been connected. I feel like I’ve been pre-determined and that destiny might be real. Almost every events that happened between my life (middle of childhood and adulthood) seems to me as obstacles to really pursue and "challenge" me in my destiny.
Things that I did expect to happen didn’t happen in the past, but now, after remembering my wants and whom I want to be back then when I was still such a crybaby, things that happen now has been really what I want back then.
example:
Kiddy days: fascinated by arts, loved arts etc….
Puberty–to–teenage days: sway of dreams from those of the childhood days to something else like "nursing", "being an OFW", "to be a priest", "to be a programmer", and etc…
Present: almost everything you wanted back then is happening now.
There really is no logical connection on those events but it seem to me that almost everything that happened in the middle has no use for today.
BTW, most people only started believing in destiny when they fall in love (as observed by psychologists and even me). Lovers try to connect things why did they meet and almost everything in the past up to the present.
Now that this things are starting to make sense for me, MY MOTHER (yep.. she saw me writing this) even agreed to what I’m saying regarding what’s happening to my life today compared to the past! LOL.
What’s worse is, her definition of destiny is about GOD dictating our own lives.
Why continue living if there’s someone up there creating a future for us? Does it mean that if you’re really destined to be poor then you’ll be poor when you die? Does it mean that if someone is destined to die at "this" age, he/she will die at that given age?
I guess, that this word–destiny will have it’s own truth only in believing or not believing in it.
Now, I would like to return to my very first question in this article…
Do you believe in Destiny?
My answer? I still don’t know.
